I was talking to a non-homeschooling mom the other day, and she said, “I feel bad that I don’t homeschool our kids! Even if I had the time, there’s no way I could be with my kids all. day. long! I’m a bad person, huh?” and she laughed a bit shyly. I realized she felt guilty about not homeschooling her kids. And I told her: “No! To homeschool is a calling.”
Not a higher calling, as though my call is better than someone else’s, but a unique, individual calling.
Not everyone is called to homeschool.
Everyone isn’t called to be in the military. Not everyone is called to be a musician, or astronaut or doctor or lawyer. If we were all called to the same things, our world would be a boring, dull place to live.
Saying homeschooling is the best route for every family is like saying every family needs to eat spam for dinner each night. It’s absurd (and frankly weird).
If you’re not a homeschooling parent, it’s ok. As a matter of fact, it’s more than ok. If God has not placed an undeniable burden on your heart to teach your kids at home, then I believe you would be doing your children a disservice if you did.
And this doesn’t just apply to education.
We adopted our children from the foster care system. I was on a mission to spread the word that everyone should be adopting; after all, isn’t it our call as Christians to “help the widows and orphans?” But after being an adoptive parent for a few years, I realized: this is hard. Like, really, really hard. Not like “parenting is difficult” hard, but like “this is not what I signed up for” hard. It’s a calling and a ministry. It’s not for the faint-hearted, and it’s not for someone trying to fill a void in his or her life.
Adopting is stepping in when you feel the burden on your heart to help a child in need.
In our culture, we tend to jump on bandwagons and try to be martyrs for causes we are passionate about. We try to convince others that they should be doing what we’re doing. After all, if we’re doing it, and it’s working, doesn’t that mean everyone else should be, too?
Of course not.
Friends, if you homeschool your kids, good for you. If you don’t homeschool your kids, way to go.
We need to do less judging, and more encouraging. We need to stop (even if it’s subconsciously) looking down (or up) at people on the “other side.” Because sometimes by looking up to other people, we are looking down on ourselves.
Each of us needs to search deep within ourselves to find our calling. Then it’s our duty to answer our own call, not someone else’s.